Biblically Remarried is Godly

Biblically Remarried is Godly also. It's a hot topic, much hotter than I realized. One must separate what the world says, what we want to believe, and what the Bible actually says. We all know what the world says, in my case, yes, I was married to an unbeliever. I was in an unequally yoked marriage, the "Church", I had grown up in, and been baptized in, actually indorsed. I think everyone was just happy to save the "damsel in distress". I was young and for some reason completely ignorant on the issue. I trusted the church maybe too much. After everything was said and done, I have been perhaps a little bitter, for a time. I know we are all just human beings. Everything she had put out to catch me was false. She had been successful/accomplished a bit of an over achiever, but the daughter of two alcoholics. The moment the "I do" was said she broke, she couldn't keep up the image anymore. She barely spoke more than a handful of words for 6 months. We started and ran a business together. That helped. But there was no help from anyone in and out of the Church. I don't believe she actually had any kind of relationship with God. I had to keep my relationship with God pretty much secret in order to have some sense of peace in the home. 3 1/2 years in, I realized I needed to find anyway possible to build her up. In 6 months she was feeling confident in herself and filed for divorce. Since, she's remarried and with kids and she bares no ill will toward me. Always appreciative of me standing by her. Now the question is "is it OK in God's sight" for me to remarry. It took me years to recover, but now some would like to completely shatter my hope once again. Jesus brought a new Covenant where the Holy Spirit lives within. He writes and instills His powerful law of love, faith, and a new life of forgiveness within. I love God with my whole heart, that is the reason I haven't, yet, remarried. She needs to also be God centered, not perfect, God centered. The possibilities in a relationship are incredible with God first. The Holy Spirit leads us to love as God does, to our very core.

What does the Bible actually say? We know as a whole, divorce is not at all encouraged or supported. The marriage union or bond represents Christ and the Church, but we are human beings in a fallen and very imperfect world, with two paths in life, God's and the devils.

Matt. 5:31-32 says for marital unfaithfulness or adultery it is permitted to divorce.

Matt. 19:3-9 Again for marital unfaithfulness.

Luke 16:18 Where divorce is not permitted it is also not permitted to remarry.

1Cor. 7:15 Where an unbeliever chooses to leave, a believing husband or wife is no longer bound. ...if not bound then you are free to remarry. As a widow is also no longer bound in marriage and free to remarry. Romans 7:2-3

And of course in our hearts we need to be at peace with it, having faith in God's guidance to us each. Romans 14:22+23 As with everything, if after we receive God's guidance we still believe it to be a sin, even if it actually isn't, then to us it would still be a sin. We do also have to "educate" our convictions, and make sure they are square with God and not our own obsession or based on false teaching. The Bible is the Word of God.

Also, if a divorced, remarried and it wasn't lawful. The remaining spouse is actually now released from the former bond because of the former partners infidelity.

The Bible doesn't say a lot on the subject, but it is actually quite clear. Let's not make bonds where they don't exist.

There is also "whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven." Matt. 18:18

Marriage is to be a Blessing. My hope remains strong, and I only see marriage as the Blessing God created it to be. It is for the physical realm, the here and now, one of the greatest blessings He gives us if we also make it so. God centered, with our relationship with Him always first. God does hold to the sanctity and importance of the marriage Covenant with great regard, but it is an institution of the physical realm and He does allow for it's dissolution under specific circumstances. In my case, she was an unbeliever, she did choose to leave, and she did remarry. Both unfortunately and thankfully. It was heart-rending. My heart is bare before God. I am covered! And always Blessed! Henry

Hopefully this will give others some clarity also.